Mend Your Broken Heart – Try Something New

It only take three weeks to start a new habit and that means it also only takes three weeks to stop any bad ones. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! We have to get up and start living again although it is quite typical to feel crushed for a long time after losing someone we care about. Now put the junk food away and get out of those ugly old sweatpants, it’s time to begin some new habits and try something new to heal your broken heart!

The very first thing we have to do is put an end to all the terrible habits we are doing now. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex’s life? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? We want to know if our ex feels the same hurt we do, just as we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. In order to heal our broken hearts we need to make a great effort to break these bad habits. Whenever you are feeling that pull to check online or to bring up your ex, pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! By becoming aware of these bad habits you can start to stop yourself from doing them.

Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. Our new habit should be complementing ourselves as we need to feel good about ourselves again. I know this will feel weird at first but sit down and write 10 things about yourself that are good. It could be as simple as this:

10 Great things about me:

1. I really love my…
2. I have great…
3. I’ve very good at…
4. My … is/are my best feature.
5. My … really kicks butt!
6. I’m very…
7. I’m also very…
8. One of my best skills is/are…
9. I really look good in…
10. I’m really good at…

Now saying it like you mean it (so don’t squint your face up when you do it) every morning when you get up you are going to look in the mirror and repeat these 10 things to yourself. You are going to begin to like yourself again the more you say it, because the more you say it the more you will believe it.

Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Try to choose something fun so it doesn’t become a chore, this will help you boost your self confidence which will help you meet some new people as well as learning a new skill. These people will get to know the “real you”, not the “you” that you were with your ex.

Trying something new and beginning new habits will give you something else to concentrate on beside what is going on with your ex. For 21 days try these 2 things and see how much better you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? Healing our broken heart takes time and we are just starting to retrain how we feel about ourselves.