What to Do When He Cheats On You and Mend Your Broken Heart

He cheated on you and you just found out and consequently all you are feeling is rage and pain. What can you do to learn to trust again and heal your broken heart?

When someone intimate to us deceives us, we begin to look at the entire world in a different way. We trusted them but they broke that trust, so where do we go from here? Forgive them or dump them, what do we do?

Our self esteem will take a enormous hit due to his cheating and drives us insane trying to figure out why he did it, were we not beautiful enough? Good enough? What did he need that we were not providing that he had to go somewhere else for it? Even if you can’t forgive him, you have to explore what went wrong in the relationship and to do that you have to examine his affair.

Was it an affair or a one-night stand? A full blown affair could mean a number of things, and it may not be all his fault. As of lately, how have things been between the two of you? Which are you doing more of lately, arguing or having fun? Are the two of you stuck in a rut?

If it was a one-night stand, why was he tempted? How well did he know the other girl or had he just bumped into her? Do you believe this could occur again, what’s more you’ll need to look at your relationship.

Even though you are extremely angry at him, you must open up the lines of communications with him. Is the relationship worth fixing or not, is something you need to find out. Be very direct with him and ask him to be truthful and why he did. Is he apologetic? Your relationship to continue and succeed, does he want it? It will hurt you deeply but you need him to tell you what he is looking for in your relationship and if he is getting it. You may want to give the relationship another go if they are things you think you can give.

It’s time to move on if he tells you the things that he needs either isn’t you or you just don’t think you can do. Neither of you are the right one for each other. And he may end up cheating again if you pretend to be someone you aren’t.

If you choose to stay with him – you have to tell him it will take awhile to build that trust back up and then you will forgive him. Don’t tell him that you have forgiven him and then whenever something goes wrong you toss it back in his face, you are not doing him or yourself any favors. Trusting him again is a difficult thing to do and if you are having problems with this, you may want to try counseling.

You may have trouble trusting other guys even though you have elected to let him go. The new boyfriends deserve your honesty as you do not want to make them pay for your ex’s mistakes as this will only drive them away.

You need to learn from this situation so it doesn’t happen again, or hopefully you can see the signs before it happens. It will not be an easy task to heal your broken heart after he has cheated on you but you also have to do what is right for you. Have faith in yourself even if you don’t have any in him.