Can Plastic Surgery Save My Marriage and Heal My Broken Heart?

I believe plastic surgery has given many women misleading hope in terms of saving their marriage. But who are the women having the plastic surgery completed for, themselves or to hold on to their man? Whatever your intentions are you may still find yourself trying to mend your broken heart.

The first to get plastic surgery was my friend Cori. Her marriage of 16 years had always been pretty rocky, in fact early that year they had done a trial separation. When their kids began to act up at school and act out at home they decided to give their marriage another chance. Due to both of them having affairs, there was a lot to work through. Cori’s husband, Will, was over compensating to try and bring the excitement back into their relationship and Cori was always measuring herself up to the woman her husband had the affair with.

They both came to the conclusion as they were trying to work through their problems that plastic surgery would help. Cori wanted to feel self-confident about her body and Will was hoping this new self-confidence would bring that spice back into their relationship. Since the one thing that Cori wasn’t happy with on her body was her breasts, they decided that she would get breast implants.

She told me that she actually had to wrestle her husband off after the surgery and she loved it! She professes that it saved their marriage and it was the best decision they ever made.

Unfortunately that is not always the case, in fact some men are terrified of their women getting any plastic surgery done. This woman from Alberta wants to have breast implants, liposuction and a tummy tuck however, her husband says he loves her exactly as she is. He explained that she wants to have the body she had before they had children, but he’s afraid that with her new look that she’ll run off and have an affair. Are his fears warranted?

To increase self-confidence, a lot of women get plastic surgery. If their current relationship is not working then the surgery could give them the confidence they need to leave it. But if the relationship is solid any surgery shouldn’t have any negative effects.

A husband inquired if she would ever consider having breast implant confessed another woman. After having two kids, her breasts weren’t as bouncy but she thought he still loved her C cups. She immediately began to feel self-conscious about them and decided to get surgery done to please him because she thought that is what he wanted. Even though it was quite a naive comment it planted an ugly seed into her head.

The surgery made her feel depressed and she stated she felt her slim build looked like a pencil with two huge balloons on it, she thought she looked like a clown. While her husband told her she looked gorgeous, she became more and more insecure. Ultimately, she decided to have the surgery reversed and a breast lift done in its place and it was all done with her husband’s total support. She feels like herself again for the first time in a long time and her husband is just glad to have her back.

Most research states that plastic surgery often does not help if a relationship is already having problems, has a history of problems, or if you are getting the surgery to please someone else. The surgery is only a short-term answer, as the original troubles are still there. In any case, the relationship will not endure if those problems are not dealt with before considering surgery.

This is exactly what happened to Cori. Her breast surgery was just six months ago and her marriage was experiencing problems once more. They were right back where they had started – separated although her new body and confidence had been a great distraction for six months, the same old problems and patterns began to surface. Even though she is heart broken that they couldn’t work it out she claims she doesn’t regret her surgery because she did it for herself as well as her husband. She says she has much more confidence in herself and she know her heart will heal.

Plastic surgery can have many positive affects if done for the right reasons and not to act as a “band-aid” to save your marriage. After all it’s quite normal to want to have your body back after having children, or change something you’ve always wanted to change, or just to fight aging. You should not be doing to please someone else, you have to be doing it because you want it no matter what. If you are using plastic surgery in an attempt to rescue your marriage, you could instead find yourself struggling to mend your broken heart.