Heal Your Broken Heart – Top 3 Reasons Why You are Still Alone

You are wondering why “If I’m so great then why am I still alone on a Friday night trying to heal my broken heart?” when your friends are telling you that you are good-looking, have a great personality, and have so much to offer someone.

Closer than you imagine is what the solution may be if you are ready to be truthful with yourself. We walk about in denial the majority of the time telling ourselves that all the high-quality ones are taken but not all the good ones are taken as you are still single and an excellent catch!

Reason #1 – You never seem to attract the right people.

You need to make a list of what you want in a partner and a list of the people you are attracted to, how do they compare? My friend Belle for example, why would her relationship never last more than a few months when she is a beautiful girl and really has no trouble getting a date? Belle doesn’t give the guy a chance if she doesn’t feel that instant attraction. This type of attraction is purely sexual and has nothing to do the guy. With a relationship based on sexual attraction, how do you build a long-term relationship out of it?

Some couples can grow from a sexual relationship to a more meaningful relationship, but it really depends on the people. Sadly for Belle, being faithful and wanting to settle down are not attributes the guys she is attracted to have. The guys she dated and her list were very different and this is why she always ends up with a broken heart.

What does your list of what you look for in a partner look like? Does the person you want to be with the same person you are attracted to?

Reason #2 – Are you looking in all the wrong places for love?

I hear constantly from my friends how hard it is to meet a great guy. When I ask them where they are looking they sheepishly tell me… a bar. Anyone who has met someone at a bar has not had a permanent relationship, at least I haven’t.

You’d most likely have a better possibility to meet someone at a coffee shop, a bookstore or even a laundromat even though there is a chance that you might meet someone remarkable at a bar. One of my friends met her husband at the bus stop, since they were both there everyday at the same time they struck up a conversation and got to know each other. They finally went on a date a few weeks later. They would not have even made an effort to get to know each on the same intensity as they did at the bus stop if instead they had met at a bar.

What are some of your favorite places to hang out, could it be the place you meet your Mr. Right?

Reason #3 – You listen to your friends and not your gut.

The best is all our friends’ want for us and unfortunately it is not always the same that we want for ourselves. I remember my girlfriend really wanted her friends to finally meet the boyfriend she had been dating for awhile.

Her new guy got so drunk and out of control, it was rocky right from the beginning. My friend squirmed in her seat as he kept spilling his drink everywhere and got louder and louder. His first impression was not a good one.

“That guy is an idiot and you deserve much better than that!” I told her the next day. She continued to see him and didn’t give into peer pressure as I know I wasn’t the only one who told her to dump him.

I’m so glad she ignored me because he turned out to be a really awesome guy! He acted like a complete jerk that night because he had been nervous about meeting all of us so he drank too much.

So do you desert potentially wonderful guys by listening to your friends?

The reason you are still alone, could the answer right in front of you? Now do you feel you recognize what changes that need to be made? “How can I heal my broken heart?” is not what you want to be speculating to yourself when you are home alone on a Friday night so can you make the changes so you are not? By submitting your comments you can let me know if there is another reason or two I may have missed.