Is He Being Unfaithful? What to Do and How to Heal Your Broken Heart

You see him catch her eye, then they both look away quickly, but smile as they do it. They’re apparently innocent flirting along with the long periods of time that they are both “absent” from the party, are signs of their “crush” progressing which is breaking your heart. He’s your husband – and she is supposed to be your friend. Can you forgive him for having an adulterous relationship and mend your broken heart?

When we find out our partner has been cheating on us, the first emotions we experience are hurt and anger. Is there a way to get passed this, stop the affair and repair your relationship? You have to ask yourself whether you are still in love with him and if the relationship even worth repairing?

The first thing you need to do if you want to repair your relationship is put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself why is he attracted to her. Is he attracted to other women because there is something absent from your relationship? The reasons if one partner has an affair could be due to the relationship being boring or taking each other for granted which is the responsibility of both parties. Whether you have been together a long time or not, you still need to make your partner feel special. The relationship can’t grow and be successful if it is not maintained or worked at.

Sometimes people cheat just because the attention they get from the opposite sex makes them feel good about themselves. Imagine how you would feel after years of being in a relationship and then out of the blue this great looking guy starts flirting with you. With a little flirting suddenly he has made you feel things that you haven’t felt in a long time, sexy and maybe even a bit naughty.

For anyone to take it further than some innocent flirting is no excuse. So what this means is you and your partner need to have a heart to heart. You need to explain that you know what is going on and ask what him what his intensions are. Does he love her, does she love him? Does he still love you? If there are things that you need to work on in the relationship, like not taking him for granted, tell him you realize that.

It will be a rough road if you decide to work it out and are willing to give 100%. If you can, try seeing a marriage counselor, they can act as a mediator so you both can get your feelings out and communicated properly with each other. If you can’t see a counselor then you both have to be respectful when the other is trying to tell you how they feel.

Furthermore, if you decide to forgive him, one of the most imperative things you should remember is you totally CAN NOT toss the affair back in his face. That will not help the trust to be build up with each other.

If you find that you are having trouble forgiving him and you still cannot trust him, you may have to move on to mend your broken heart.