How To Deal With Death; Living A Lifetime Of Freedom in Only Ten Days!

Everyone experiences loss. No one escapes this life unhurt by its torment and the discomfort and devastation it leads to. Even though we all face loss, every individual will experience loss differently. For some it may be thru the death of a child or spouse. Others will face a brake up of their marriage or family or a chronic sickness such as cancer or the loss of their job that had provided for their family. Loss might come by the loss of your reputation, betrayal by a good friend or rejection by a family member. No matter how our loss arrives, when we lose something we treasured and of course is important to us, the agony and discomfort is inevitable, changing our life forever.

Having gone through a couple of significant losses in my own life, I know how debilitating loss can be. Yet, as I’ve grown and matured, not so much in age and experience but in the ways of God, I am beginning to see and understand how the pain and heartache of loss, that any loss, can be healed and used by God to expand my soul and grow and strengthen me as person. Not so I can take great pride in myself am for having overcome so much, imagine the sadness, if that were all I had to show for the losses in my life. No, when God expands our soul, grows, and strengthens us, in the middle of the hurt in our life, its so He can open our eyes to a world that’s larger than us; showing that even in this fallen world of sin, death and loss, He is still ready to accomplish His perfect plan and will for us and in us.

Romans 8:28:

“We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”

Many times when people are experiencing their pain due to their loss, they reject their pain, to the point of anger at someone relaying the message in His Word with them, believing it callous, maybe even thinking you are being preachy or insensitive to what they are going through. Learning to know when it is the best time for things like this is crucial, withholding the hope that comes from the guarantees of our Heavenly Father demonstrates a lack of empathy and love, for nothing apart from His love and power can set someone free to get past and prosper after a fatal loss.

It is that incapacity to get moving with your life that’s the subject of this article. We would’nt need to discuss moving on from loss if our loss did not have such superb force to just keep us where we are, nearly frozen in time or worse, living our life in the past, as if today or tomorrow doe not matter.

There‘s, understandably, a time and a season to mourn. Lacking the willingness to address your pain and permitting yourself to feel the discomfort and misery of it, can bring on all types of additional emotional and physical problems latter on down the road. Your loss and pain needs healthy grief for healing, bringing healing to your pain needs time. However, the time is not meant to stay around for all time. Cherishing memories and special feelings for a lost loved one is certainly important. Recollecting very special or joyous events that have occurred in your life and were good and wonderful. It can even be sadness at times as you’re feeling the emptiness or face the changes loss has left you with, is good and acceptable but a lifetime of mourning isn’t!

Lamentations three, talks about there being a season and a time for each matter or purpose under heaven, including mourning:

A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.

If we decide to not move from a continual place of grief and sorrow, we are going to miss all the wonderful things God has planned for us in this life, that could be a loss of unspeakable proportions. Our loving God revels in healing and restoration for everyone who calls upon Him. God does not intend for us to journey thru our lifetime injured and lacking in our spirit or our body as a consequence of the pain in our life we have endured. He desires to cure us for our sake and for His glory and purposes. He’s a God of new beginnings, wanting to be in your life, demonstrating His power and showing the world His love for you and me.

Isaiah 43 : 18-19 ( NASB )

Do not call to mind the former things, or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new. Now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it?

He wants for us to journey with Him and enjoy the things He is accomplishing, but we can not if we’ve shut our self off from what He offers, then we are destined to spend the rest of our lives in self-pity and despair.

One of the most detrimental choices someone can make soon after loosing a friend or family member especially that of a better half of a child or even after a divorce – is they will never let themselves fall in love again. They think to do so is to open themselves up to that very same devastating agony again and what person thinking correctly would do that? But to make a decision like that is to make sure that one is very likely to miss out of the awesome life ahead that your Heavenly Father has planned for you.

A Grace Disguised, a wonderful book; author Gerald Sittser, who lost not only his wife but also his mother and a young daughter in an auto accident writes about just what you are going through.

“The risk of further loss, therefore, poses a dilemma. The problem of choosing to love again is that the choice to love means living under the constant threat of further loss. But the problem of choosing not to love is that the choice to turn from love means imperiling the soul, for the soul thrives in an environment of love. Soul-full people love; soul-less people do not. If people want their soul to grow through loss, whatever the loss is, they must eventually decide to love even more deeply than they did before. They must respond to the loss by embracing love with renewed energy and commitment.”

Expanding our heart to love again after loss can be a mysterious part of the way God uses to heal us. It is our decision to refuse or accept His healing or we can withdraw to protect ourselves, leading to a diminished soul and a very empty and meaningless way to finish living life. It would be easy to walk away from love because the risk of loss is simply too great. Yes, another loss may occur yet God’s love and His power is even more certain to cure you. It does take some bravery for us to live again and it takes His power to love again and again. With The Lord God, it means a fresh start and why you need to move on while relying on God’s power and not your own!

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