Causes Of Depression Can Be Dealt With

Most experts who write about the causes of depression usually provide a list with the following items:

• Lack of social support
• Early childhood trauma or abuse
• Recent stressful life experiences
• Loneliness
• Financial strain
• Health problems or chronic pain
• Marital or relationship problems
• Family history of depression
• Unemployment or underemployment
• Alcohol or drug abuse

Too bad they get it all wrong. Many people have dealt with these stress factors without going into depression. The factors above can certainly create a more difficult life, at least temporarily, but not depression.

Of course there can be contributing factors to depression, such as childhood abuse. But that’s not really causing the depression.

I did receive any medical training. I am not a doctor. But I suffered through some serious depression myself. For decades. But I did find a way to completely end it, and I can show you how I did it.

Before I do, let’s look at what really causes depression.

You’ve got a flow of emotion inside you right now. A raw flow of feelings and thoughts. (An emotion is simply a ‘package’ of thoughts and feelings.)

Out of this raw thought and feeling, you think your thoughts and feel your feelings. But we’ve been taught almost from birth that our feelings have no value and we shouldn’t even have them. So while it’s okay to think, there’s no need to feel.

Or if we do, at least keep them under control. Don’t feel too much. And just don’t feel with intensity.

, we only attempt to turn off the ‘bad’ feelings – the unpleasant ones.

“Big boys don’t cry.”

“Good girls don’t get upset.”

But that’s just the beginning.

The problem is, you can’t really shut out certain feelings while letting other ones through. Because all your feelings come through one pathway. If you crimp a garden hose, it restricts the entire flow. Same thing here.

All we want to do is block the unpleasant feelings, but what happens is we restrict them all.

Our power comes from our emotions. They make us feel alive. When you don’t feel your feelings, you start shutting down. You keep feeling worse, but you don’t know why. You still think it’s the feelings themselves that cause the pain.

But in actuality, it’s when you don’t feel the feelings that pain starts. It’s painful to not feel your feelings. It takes effort and work on your part. You’ve got to create all sorts of stories about your feelings.

Like invisible structures, these stories block the flow of feeling. These structures end up being the exact cause of emotional pain in our lives.

Plus, your heart longs to feel. And its being denied. When your heart longs for feelings, and you wall off your heart so the feelings can’t get in, that is a guaranteed recipe for emotional pain.

So where does the depression come in? What causes the actual depression here?

You could define depression as the absence of feelings. Blocking your true feelings from entering your heart will lead you to depression. Unfortunately, we think our feelings are the source of the problem so we keep shutting them down more. Which only makes things worse. But in reality it’s the structures that block our feelings which become like little pain factories. Plus, it’s the absence of feelings in our heart.

The root cause of depression is the shutting down of our feelings – one step at a time – until we lose touch with the very aliveness the feelings bring. So I suppose you could say that the loss of aliveness actually causes the depression.

Here’s what you want to keep in mind:

Your heart longs to feel! It’s painful to not feel. So start letting in the feelings. To get all the details, visit this web page on the causes of depression.